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Every new year we are enchanted by the thought that this year will be something different…something new. Every new year, for my whole life, I would chose this extravagant resolution. Since it was a new year I could dream big, as big as I wanted. Because…dreams can never be big enough! Right?
… “This year I will lose 20 pounds.”
… “This year I will get promoted at work no matter what.”
… “This year I will eat healthy and workout more.”
I guess what I never realized that setting unrealistic goals at the beginning of the year only set you up for failure. It seemed like year after year I tried as hard as I could but I never meet my resolutions. It’s really fricken hard to keep a resolution up for a whole year! I mean- life happens, like stuff you don’t plan for. You lose a loved one, you lose your job, you get sick…and the list goes on.
So- in 2016 for the first time in my 31 years I decided to do something different. I decided to make intentions instead of resolutions. Everyone thought I was crazy…”What’s an intention? What does that mean? Is the the same as a resolution? Maybe just make a resolution instead?” But- no! I had read somewhere something about intentions and the idea of it enchanted me…for the first time in a long time. I set 5 intentions: 1- Make your own happiness, 2- Seek silence, 3- Create beautiful rituals, 4- Stop pushing 5- Take one risk. Seems reasonable right? To be honest I don’t even know how I came up with the intentions; I think I copied a few from online and a few from tips from my therapist at the time. I wrote them down on paper, cut out the paper and put the list on my fridge. And I looked at that list every day for the whole year. Where they came from didn’t matter! What mattered is that 2016 was one of the best years I’ve had so far! I took ONE risk…I picked up my life and I moved across the United States…alone. No family, no friends. Just me and my trusty sidekick Mr. Roscoe. And dammit- that was the best risk I ever took! And those small, easy intentions…they made me brave. They made me take that one life changing risk.
Fast forward to 2019 / 2020. Every year since 2016 I have chosen to take the path of intentions instead of resolutions. And it’s been a true journey! My career took off, I made new friends, I spent all my time outside in the sun, and I started this little business. This little ray of sunshine. So, for this new year I choose intentions again. My biggest intention this year- “Being at peace with where I am in my journey”. And that my friends is a whole other topic for another day!
Until then, HAPPY NEW YEAR to all the beautiful humans out there.
* Stay Wild * xo_dre